Malden business donates services rescue dogs

Playful puppy Paws in the Childhood Malden is donating services from 2009 for the rescue of the dogs who have nowhere to call home.

Melissa Doherty, agents, business owners, opened its doors to more than 100 rescue dogs in desperate need. and July 2010, playful Paws rescue and broken tail, a local non-profit organization, working with rescue and have so far Retrieved and placed 45 dogs which would have otherwise been euthanized.

Playful Paws welcomes these deserve their dogs to facilities with open arms. Rescue teams ensures that dogs have been vaccinated and altered before heading to playful Paws.

Doherty, agent and her staff are able to observe the rescue dogs and eventually help make good adoption or foster races. Dogs are able to socialize with other dogs and get lots of love from the staff, while they wait for an available foster home for the open or approved in a loving family.

In addition to the refuge and care provides these playful Paws dogs, hold regular fundraisers, meet and greet events and collect donations for the supply of maritime rescue work closely with.

"Without the help of playful Paws these dogs will be euthanized solely for lack of space in shelters," said Patricia Piantedosi, co-founder of broken tail rescue, Inc. "can only help as many dogs as we have available foster homes. Playful Paws is a huge asset in our efforts to rescue and allowed us to save many more abandoned animals. "

Doherty, agent has moved beyond rescue teams in anyway he can.  Alleges a relationship with Kevin Alkins, official animal control of Malden. She often receives and cares for stray dogs from the city of Malden, since it is unclaimed by the owner. Once you bind a rescue team have been modified and take the vaccine and then head over to playful Paws, which starts a new trip.

"Opening our space for these wonderful dogs that had not been the best start in life is an amazing experience," said Doherty, agents. "I see them to gain confidence, socialize with other dogs, feel Loved, sometimes for the first time in their lives and then move a wonderful adoptive homes. I am very positive that I am able to be part of their journey to a better life "

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Dancing girls of Lahore calling time

 musicals anklets worn for centuries are now redundant spectacles from the city's famous dancing girls of Lahore came to an end because of deteriorating security. Many now face an uncertain future, with some turning to prostitution, Harun al-Rashid of the BBC.

The colorful musical girls dancing anklets in Mohallah ancient area of Lahore Shahi are now silent and sale.

This neighborhood crumbling old buildings is no longer a place for men to deviate from their arranged marriages and spend time with beautiful women trained in the arts of song, dance and seduction.

A few days ago, women in this area, popularly known as Heera Mandi, used to attract men wearing such anklets.

The vast majority of dancers did exactly as their name suggests-dance for a male clientele. Only a handful working in the sex trade.

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all Pakistani music festivals, theatre performances and other events have stopped being hosted here due to fear of terrorism "

historical end quote Dr Mubarak Ali Lahore In the 1950s, dancing girls were legitimised as" artists "by a high court order that allowed them to play for three evening hours. ' Secular ' Culture

Over the years, men of different backgrounds and social, economic and cultural, used to walk up and down this small road in search of beauty, dance, music and, in some cases, sexual favors.

The small and narrow road sleepy during the day, but awoke at night.

In the dark, the music used to ooze out of more than 300 small houses. But the bomb explosions near the bazaar have forced women to quit their businesses and leave for good.

Police spokesman Lahore Shahzad Asif Khan says that officers were able to provide women with adequate protection.

"This has been a secular culture," he said.

Many of the buildings in the area of Shahi Mohallah are falling into disrepair

"But unfortunately, for a period of time-and especially in the last seven or eight years-has grown extremism.

"Over the past 10 months alone, there were bursts of crackers forcing few women remaining to leave. Culture the girls dancing is almost non-existent now. "

' Very troubling '

ActionAid researcher that Daud Saqlain fears that the future bodes well for the former dancing girls, some of whom were forced into prostitution, because extremists are challenged to their performing relatively harmless dancing in public.

"In the last decade we have seen the unfortunate growth of domestic sex work.

"Due to poverty and limited opportunities, some women have had little choice but to switch from dance to the sex work.

"This is very worrisome and dangerous in General to our society."

While some women have moved into other areas of the city, others have led to places as far away as Britain and the United Arab Emirates.

Dr Saqlain says he is worried about their situation in these unknown places.

«If you engage in sex work there illegally, they have absolutely no right. '

Sanaa, 21, is a former ballerina and, like many of his contemporaries, is reluctant to talk in detail about its existence.

Shahi Mohallah area musicians are now finding it difficult to make ends meet

She said the BBC, she was in the United Kingdom three times and had made several visits to Dubai.

"For us, no matter where we just until we get the job," he said.

The departure of the dancing girls meant that dilapidated buildings in Shahi Mohallah now are full of shops, advertising skills of musicians who used to run for the dancing girls, but now they are offering their services for weddings and parties.

"Playing music for weddings and parties, we can hardly make ends meet. Previously, the work associated with dancing girls meant a lot of money, "a performer told the BBC.

' Buzz ' is gone

Many former dancers do not have turned to prostitution, but they have adjusted to the threat of security by setting up their own web sites in order to attract well-heeled customers to privately owned homes in middle class areas.

Aid workers say that this, too, presents dangers that women were much easier to protect where they were located in a particular area.

Punjab law Minister Rana Sanaullah Khan told the BBC that dancing girls performed a plea came at the end was because "security agencies have their apprehensions about activities until late at night".

"But if it can be a convenient timeframe, we think that mutual allows once".

Shahi Mohallah area of Lahore is much quieter than it used to be

Meanwhile, suffered a business at restaurants in the vicinity of Shahi Mohallah.

"Yes, the closure has hit us hard. Levels of our customers now are half of what they used to be. All the buzz around here has unfortunately gone, '' said Shahzada Pervaiz, owner of a well-known restaurant of 60-year-old boy named Phajja.

Members of the public on the streets of the area seem to be in two minds over the disappearance of the girls dancing.

While some said they were "morally corrupt", others said that it was sad that a tradition that had lasted for centuries should disappear in the twinkling of an eye.

Historian Dr Mubarak Ali told the BBC that at the end of the tradition of dancing girls was another nail in the coffin of artistic heritage and culture of Lahore, who had been "reduced from" radicalization "from 1970.

"Lahore before partition it was a very cosmopolitan city," he said.

"Women rode bikes and nobody has objected to it. But the winds of change began to blow because of the support given by the former dictator Gen. Zia ul-Haq to religious groups.

"All Pakistani music festivals, theatre performances and other events have been hosted here due to fear of terrorism."

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"Love, marriage, marriage" Debuts trailer: we have presented a Kellan Lutz!

What you get when you combine a marriage Counsellor present with hilarious parents who drop the bomb they are to divorce weeks before their birthday celebration eruption? If you talk about "Love, marriage, marriage", you mean the recipe for a blockbuster comedy golden.

The trailer, which has hit the web today, seems to have all the ingredients for a successful marriage-centric film key: father James Brolin, moving in with young married (walking in their canoodling, natch), an eccentric marriage called Advisor as a last resort to save the marriage and, of course…Jane Seymour.

It is not first walk of helmer Dermot Mulroney in the aisle, as in "My best friend marriage", he played alongside Julia Roberts, but this marks her first film. As for Mandy Moore, watching us pass through hoops just to get to the altar in "license to wed", it will be bending his chops to act as it embodies not only as a happy present but a girl to go to seek the advice of marriage. Needless to say that it does not defeat accept when his idealized image of a perfect couple just crush before his eyes. What it does place? Ask Jessica Szohr to choosing floral arrangements for the celebration of the anniversary will happen.

If you are not going to see the film for whether or not the crusade of Mandy to save the marriage of his parents is successful, then you should consider going for the following reason: Kellan Lutz abs. The trailer promises a few scenes presented, even if one of them happens to involve Mandy, throw a roll of paper toilet on this beautiful blonde head of his. We can manage that.

Watch the trailer on YouTube.

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Daring rescue: Firefighters Pull Teen from icy lake

A 16-year-old fell through the ice on Lake Ontario on Monday.   The teenager was already in the water for five minutes when his friends called 911.   With just minutes to spare parts firefighters with Webster Fire Department made a heroic rescue.   The first fire in the tent was John Jones.   Assistant Chief Craig Akins SR.  says Jones is a hero.  "I don't know how he did, but he referred to the cave and went from 15 feet.  Somehow the rope wrapped around his shoulders, "said Akins.

The teenager was chin deep in water and loss of consciousness.   Two other firefighters helped pull the teenager off the water and made up the Hill ambulance.   "We really trained for this last week with Member instructors.  We knew exactly what we do and how to do it, and the children got him very quickly, "said Chief Craig Akins Jr., Webster Fire Department.   Fire services in our region conduct exercises education of cold water every year.   Be prepared for everything, but I have advice for people thinking about going near water.  "With temperatures which are constantly changing and you got to stay warmer outside the ice," said Chief Akins Jr.   "You have to be careful."

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How to fix a failing marriage

Work it out... the first emphasis on the needs of your partner.

You have a marriage that goes down the tubes?

You know the scenario of relationship. The more you try to resolve, the worse everything gets.

Your home life can be so unstable, you determine how stealthily on good furniture before your-to-soon faces off with you in the Court.

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Before starting, loading of these devices, however, take a long afternoon to find out if your marriage can be saved.

Most of us have been troubled marriage at one time or another.

You have to set your partner or correcting everything in your marriage. But, you'll have to expand your vision on your situation.

A spouse can act a little crazy or very crazy, if its requirements are not get filled. Try to focus in this direction in the first place, although your needs may be shouting for attention.

In a dysfunctional marriage, the needs of each person are not taken seriously. A dysfunctional marriage revolves around a person a little too much.

Try to find out if your spouse is egoist or just need a few lights.

"Many of my hammer clients on their partners, so that they extract you everything they want for themselves," said a psychologist that we call Charles.

A woman that Charles advises stopped speaking to her husband for three weeks to achieve its ends. We will call her Kathy.

Kathy sought a cruise for its 10th anniversary that more than $15,000.

"They were behind on their mortgage loan close to bankruptcy, but she wanted this trip!", says Charles. "Kathy, in all fairness, has reimbursed her husband. He had ignored many of the years Kathy needs. »

Partners in need

A list needs might include "someone listen me" or "someone to help me household". Quality time with friends, read or relax time and the time of ours on weekends could be on your list as well.

Charles said these tips can help couples to be on the right track:

-First learn what are the needs of your partner. Make sure that you can tell the other person what are its high needs four or five. You can get talking about in terms of the needs of the other person, to the right in its heart.

-React on your own needs. Your partner may not be able to reply to all, but make sure that he or she knows what they are.

-Discover how to get some of your needs met by others. You could, for example, go camping with a friend if your spouse hates camping. Your partner cannot and should not respond to all your needs.

"I'm so fed up with my husband because he has kept the same work poorly paid for years," said a nurse that we call Traci. "I started fantasising having a romantic relationship with a doctor, I have known for years".

Traci got a wake-up call when she has lunched with the wife of the doctor. They wound up accidentally at the same table in the cafeteria of the hospital.

"The wife of this doctor had a laundry list of his needs, he had never met," laughs Traci. "He could not say even their twins apart"!

This is that Traci began to look at her own husband in a new light.

My husband "is a wonderful person and a wonderful father," said Traci. "I have some ideas of career, I want to discuss with him, so he can change jobs. But, if ever, he made a lot of money, I know that I am lucky to have him green. »

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Services relationship responds to quake

Relation Whakawhanaungatanga services are deeply distressed about the situation in respect of its staff who were on the fifth floor of the building of CTVs during the time of yesterday's earthquake, Chief Executive Jeff Sanders says.

"Can we confirm that an employee is still ignored. However, we are relieved to report that the remaining 14 staff and our customers, but all escaped the building suffered varying degrees of injuries.

"We are grateful to those who helped rescue personnel.

"We are now working to restore a database in Christchurch and grateful for the support of partners helping us find a suitable location.

"Our staff have been very encouraged by the response from the Government, partner organizations, our friends and clients that are sending their messages of support yesterday's quake.

"Whakawhanaungatanga services is a national organisation and was able to mobilize a response to the victims of the earthquake. In the first case, this will be a phone counselling services. The service can be reached by calling:

• our Christchurch number 366 8804 (03)
• 0800 SYSChETISMoS number-0800 735 283
• our number or national Office (04) 472 8,273.

"A team of experienced consultants, including specific trauma, gathered to provide an advisory service for Christchurch people person. Our goal is to have that up and running within the next few days, "says Dr. Sanders.

EDGES

Prime Minister John key announced today Mark Weldon, Chief Executive of NZX, will instruct the charitable efforts of the Government's Christchurch earthquake appeal.

"Mr Goyelnton has a wealth of experience and of New Zealand and overseas, and networks to enable calls to be a truly global," says Mr key.

"I am very pleased, Mr Goyelnton has offered its expertise and donate time to oversee the appeal earthquake Christchurch during the period of fundraising". More >>

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Sharing stories of melting: Jokers help rescue Iceland

This sense of deep disgust in Iceland, when the country was the glass coffin to a banking crisis which some joke that set in December 2009 to mock the political establishment led to high office WAS elected.

The best part, promised not to observe the electoral promises, but found the largest party in local elections held in Reykjavik capital.

Among those elected was Einar Benediktsson Minsk, former trumpet player with two of Iceland's largest musical exports – and the Sugarcubes, Bjork, who today is President of culture and tourism to the Council of the city of Reykjavik.

Mr Benediktsson remarked that the Irish general election appeared to be a rather staid affair compared with the riots happened in Iceland.

"Going by the posters, there does not seem to be any ongoing innovation," said although he did not see an Ireland country to its knees.

Is a group of Icelandic people – led by the Mayor of Reykjavik and founder of the party's best Jón Gnarr Kristinsson, – in Dublin this weekend to talk about mutual experience of economic collapse and that each country can benefit from the experience of the other.

Mr Gnarr, as is known, was a stand-up comedian in Iceland before getting himself elected last year.

Believes that the current commitment of Icelandic Government is not Left enough credit for addressing country-2008 collapse and the country had no choice but to take radical options.

"Many people assume. As I understand it, we're the only country worldwide who handled the matter in this way, "he said.

Mr Gnarr observed that not only were Iceland and Ireland are two small countries, but the world is a small part as Lord Mayor of Dublin Gerry Breen's brother, Fr Patrick Breen, is in the general population of the tiny Catholic Vicar of Iceland and lives in Rekyjavik.

Gerry Breen, who could be a TD until the end of today, said the tired old joke about the difference between Ireland and Iceland is a letter and six months was wrong, because what happened in Iceland took two years to occur in Ireland.

The northern lights Observatory, first indent, "Ireland: Iceland project", this is all weekend. There will be an event tomorrow at 1 p.m. at City Hall where the public will be invited to talk about the relationship between the two countries.

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Adultery - the healing process

Can a woman survive being betrayed by her husband?

Yes. Is it easy? Hell no. Is it better to get a divorce? It all depends on you request and on the situation. In the Bible, a woman has the right to divorce from her husband's infidelity. Does God prefer reconciliation? Yes, if there has been a true repentance. Both spouses have to deal as a couple to make things work. However, the unfaithful man must remorse for their actions. He must be prepared to face the consequences of adultery. What the consequences? Continue reading.

A woman who has been betrayed will need long so they can "trust" again. The man must be willing to accept it. Many men don't want to wait for this albeit who cheated on his wife. The man must be willing to stay with his wife. Men to see how "tied" or no privacy. Once again, forget of was his actions that led to this place of mistrust. However, if a man wants to make her marriage work again, he must be willing to do these things. He should be ready to break all ties with the mistress, even if it means movement, get another job, etc..

A woman needs time to recover, and this does not happen quickly. A man will say, "I said sorry, so which on it and move on." What a man does not realize is that a woman will very probably have provided the matter took to heal. For example, if the affair lasted for 3 years, women will need about 3 years heal. Some are faster, some take longer (those who have a difficult time forgiving).

A woman never forgets the memories of the betrayal. If it was a very painful time, things will stimulate the memories of a woman. Thus she will revive those terrible moments and start to hate you new! That is why women should seek God with all his heart. You must choose to forgive her husband when they are ready. Once they are ready, you must forgive on a daily basis. Why? Two reasons: the forgiveness is a process. And because it is easy to fall into the bitterness, anger and the pain of her husband what he did to them. A woman must be based on the Holy Spirit to do a job in it. She must renew his mind on a daily basis with the word of God. Pray much! Most importantly, lawyer search and find friends who are willing to help you through the process of healing without telling him that she is crazy to stay with him. She needs people who will not judge or criticize his decision to stay in the marriage.

Mary l. Weinstein is a certified trainer of purpose in life and biblical counsel. He has a Bachelor's degree in theology in biblical counseling. She is an ordained minister. Mary is the founder and CEO of friends for the purpose of ministries. It offers various services, including training, advice, articles, resources, links, a radio show and a blog. For more information visit: http://friendswithpurpose.com

Divorce counseling measure died in the House, Montana, United States

HELENA-a Republican; want to urge couple with children who had the two 18 to undergo marriage counseling before a divorce.

Bill Rep. Tom McGillvray would ask couple to seven meetings with an adviser. He said damaged the lives of divorce, and wants parents to think twice before a divorce.

'' He saved me. I can tell you I don't know what would happened to my daughter, would not have lived with all the problems with which we were, '' I Howard representative (R-Park City) said.

'' I don't want you to tell me what I can and you can't in my life. I'm sure is not going to tell anyone they can, they can't do in life married. The last time I heard, we live in a free country, people can take decisions, '' the representative Edie McClafferty (D Butte).

The died in a House floor vote 60-40.

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Apply knowledge: NASA Aids Chilean rescue effort

Rescue workers practice a dry run with one of the capsules used to liberate the trapped miners at the San Jose mine near Copiapo, Chile, on October 11, 2010. Photo Credit: Hugo Infante/Government of Chile

Don Cohen: In the summer and fall of 2010, the world followed the story of thirty-three Chilean miners trapped nearly half a mile underground and celebrated their successful rescue in October. A team from NASA that included physicians, a psychologist, and engineers contributed to that success, providing knowledge gained from spaceflight programs to the government and experts dealing with this down-to-earth emergency. Traveling to the mine site in Copiapo, Chile, they developed a cooperative relationship with Chilean officials and specialists that made it possible to share their knowledge effectively.

Making the Connection

The depths of a mine in South America are a long way from the Space Shuttle and the International Space Station, but there is a natural fit between what NASA knows and what the Chilean rescue team needed to know. Among other things, the space program has been an opportunity for decades of learning about the psychology and physiology of groups of people in confined spaces. And the agency's contingency planning--for instance, for rescuing the crew of a damaged shuttle--has included studying orbital equivalents of the miners' situation.

An existing relationship helped bring together agency experts and the Chileans. A NASA delegation that included Lori Garver, deputy administrator of NASA, and Al Condes, deputy associate administrator for International and Interagency Relations, had encountered Chilean space agency personnel at a meeting of the United Nations Committee on the Peaceful Uses of Outer Space. That connection led to a half-hour phone call between Dr. Mike Duncan, deputy chief medical officer at the Johnson Space Center (and eventual NASA team lead), and the Chilean Minister of Health. A teleconference later the same day provided NASA experts with an overview of the emergency. Using a mobile phone, the Chilean Minister of Health and several other Chilean health-care personnel at the San Jose mine summarized the health status of the miners and described their underground environment. Participating in the telecon from NASA were Duncan; Dr. J. D. Polk, chief of the space medicine division; Dr. Al Holland, operational psychologist; and three nutritionists: Barbara Rice, Sara Zwart, and Holly Dlouhy. These NASA experts e-mailed an initial set of medical, psychological, and nutritional recommendations to Chile shortly after that call.

Being There

The last of the trapped miners returns to the surface on October 13, 2010. Photo Credit: Hugo Infante/Government of Chile

During the teleconference, Duncan offered to bring a NASA team to the mine site, a suggestion that was readily accepted. He made the offer, he said, because "experience tells you you get a better understanding out of being there." That proved to be true, but better insight into the situation was not the only benefit of the five days the team spent in Chile at the end of August and beginning of September.

Being there allowed team members to develop relationships with their counterparts that were the kinds of social connections through which expertise can be understood, trusted, and put to use. Shared professional experience cemented these bonds and helped overcome differences in language and culture. NASA Engineering and Safety Center (NESC) Engineer Clint Cragg discovered that, like him, his Chilean counterpart had been a submariner. In addition to creating common ground, that background gave them both firsthand knowledge of what it meant to share a confined space with a group of men. They also had engineering in common, just as the physician-to-physician and psychologist-to-psychologist connections created common ground. (NASA psychologist Holland's counterpart was named Alberto; sharing a name, though in most ways a trivial connection, also helped bring them together.) Physician Polk said, "We went down representing our government; we left as friends."

Once in Copiapo, the team discovered that their earlier e-mails had never gotten to the people who needed them. That alone was a powerful argument for the value of being there. And the language difference, something of a problem during a teleconference or cell-phone conversation, ceased to be an issue working face to face, with Spanish speakers who had a good grasp of English and with the assistance of interpreters.

Applying NASA Expertise

Central to the medical expertise that NASA shared with the Chileans was an understanding of refeeding syndrome--the danger of overwhelming people who have been malnourished with the wrong kinds and quantity of food. After even a few days of starvation, a sudden influx of carbohydrates and calories can cause a rapid rise in insulin levels and associated metabolic effects that can lead to death. This lesson was learned the hard way after the world wars of the twentieth century, when well-meaning efforts to feed rescued prisoners of war and concentration camp internees caused many deaths. NASA has applied its understanding of the syndrome to contingency planning for the shuttle. The crew of a shuttle stranded at the Hubble telescope would have had to wait months for rescue, surviving on a diet of no more than 800 calories a day, so it was essential to plan for their safe renourishment.

The Chilean miners were starving, sharing very limited rations for seventeen days before the first supply hole was drilled. The four-inch diameter of the hole in effect imposed an appropriate level of refeeding, since it was impossible to send too much food to thirty-three men through such a narrow channel. But NASA's refeeding expertise helped develop an informed plan for bringing the miners back from starvation that included keeping nourishment at an appropriate level when a second hole for delivering supplies became available. Polk said, "We knew we were making progress nourishing the miners when one of them sent back a dessert because it wasn't what he wanted."

Holland's field--the psychology of confinement--is a rare specialty. His first task was to quickly give his Chilean colleague a framework for his recommendations. Once on site, he learned that the miners had more room than he'd thought; they had access to a little over a mile of tunnel as well as the garage-size space he knew about. This made it easier to find ways to deal with issues of privacy and hygiene while the men remained trapped.

All the members of the NASA team concluded that the Chileans, understandably focused on the rescue itself, had not yet thought through psychological and medical issues that would arise after they were brought to the surface. Chief among these was the importance of exposing the miners only gradually to family and others. Past space missions and the experience of prisoners of war had taught that it was critical to limit and carefully control contact during the first forty-eight hours.

NASA team members were impressed by the readiness of the Chileans to request and receive help from others, as well as the willingness of people throughout the country and around the world to contribute to the rescue effort--and their ingenuity. The miners were dealing with harsh conditions: a temperature of 90*F, 90 percent humidity, and only hard, damp rocks to sleep on. Chilean officials put out a general call for sleeping cots that could be rolled up into cylinders no more than four inches wide. A few days later, thirty-three cots arrived at the site.

The Rescue Capsule

Once the second borehole was expanded to a diameter of a little more than 2 ft., rescue became possible. The initial requirements the Chileans devised for the rescue capsule were quite general, limited to maximum diameter, height, and weight, with no design specifics. The NASA team worked on recommendations for the capsule as soon as they returned to the United States.

Arriving home just before Labor Day weekend, Cragg sent out a request for engineers to help. The response was immediate and enthusiastic. On Tuesday morning, about twenty engineers met to formulate their recommendations.

The engineers worked with the physicians and psychologist on elements of the design that would ensure the well-being of the miners during what they were told would be a trip to the surface that could take between one and four hours. They recommended including devices that could deliver oxygen and measure oxygen levels during the ascent. Two-way audio and video communication was also recommended, to monitor the condition of the miners and lessen their sense of isolation as they slowly rose through a narrow, half-mile-long hole.

Being there allowed team members to develop relationships with their counterparts that were the kinds of social connections through which expertise can be understood, trusted, and put to use.

The final set of recommendations included a harness that would allow the occupant to escape back down the hole if the capsule became stuck, the requirement that a single person be able to strap himself in the capsule, and a strategy for dealing with friction in the borehole that could otherwise break the capsule after repeated trips. They recommended either Teflon pads or spring-loaded wheels. The second of those choices was adopted by the Chileans.

Cragg said he was impressed by how good the NASA engineers were at thinking the problem through and imagining what could go wrong. They also thought carefully about how to present the recommendations. Their initial plan was to organize them by functional area (for instance, power, structure, materials, and human factors). One of the engineers quickly realized that they should instead be divided into two sections, structure and support services, so that those elements could be worked on separately. Two Spanish-speaking members of the team helped make sure the recommendations would be clear to non-native English speakers.

On Friday, they had finished. Cragg noted, "The NESC routinely assembles teams on short notice to help solve problems. Our previous experience helped to get our list of suggested requirements done rather quickly." They sent the results to Chile. The message came back: "We understand it all." Again at a Distance

Back home, the team members again experienced some of the difficulty of trying to work at a distance. Duncan said it was helpful to know people individually and have their direct e-mail addresses, but it was frustrating not to be sure that the information offered by the NASA team got where it needed to go. Holland talked about the difficulty of not being able to monitor changing psychological conditions directly, and the delay caused by having to translate e-mails sent back and forth between the two countries.

But the combination of personal relationships and new communication technology could work wonders at a distance. On a Skype call, Polk's Chilean counterpart asked him to recommend a safe speed for the rescue capsule, one that would not cause men in a weakened condition to black out. Polk, at home with his laptop, e-mailed a couple of colleagues, checked some web sources, and was able to provide the answer in a few minutes without leaving the couch he was sitting on.

Members of the NASA team emphasize that the Chileans were always the major players in the rescue effort, and that their determination and skill were key to its success. But NASA's expertise unquestionably contributed to that outcome. When, like the rest of the world, the team members watched the miners emerge one by one to be embraced by their loved ones, they knew they had helped turn a potential tragedy into a triumphant reunion.

- Don Cohen

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Arquette wants to save his marriage.

  David Arquette and Courteney Cox at the time more happy. Arquette wants to save his marriage to the former star of friends.Matt Sayles/AP.

David Arquette is still in love with his wife Courteney Cox and wants to work on their marriage.

Actor Scream 4 - including the former friends star separation was announced last October - said it is still in love with Cox and enthusiastic for them to solve their problems and move forward with their relationship, but only if she wants.

Arquette, who was a girl of six years, Coco with actress of 46 years, said: "I would much like to allow him to work." We love really each other with all our hearts. Whether as friends or as husband and wife, I know that I will be with it all my life.

"I want him to be happy." If me being the best person I can be is not its happy in a partner, to which she needs, what it seeks is always respond.

"She is my best friend, and I love him with all my heart."

Arquette - which has verified the Betty Ford Clinic, where he underwent treatment for the rehabilitation of alcoholism, late January - also admitted that he was "furious" with Cox when she told him she wanted to end their 11-year marriage.

Speaking on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Arquette said: "she got really depressed one day and was like"I am really not happy."" »

"I felt really sort of abandoned at this time there." An agreement is an agreement. I was angry with the dynamics of our relationship. "I was angry with my wife".

David Arquette and Courteney Cox at the time more happy. Arquette wants to save his marriage to the former star of friends.Matt Sayles/AP.

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Can the rock challenge the big banks?

Northern Rock is back in profit-amounting to about 200 million pounds-though a bit that is disguised with the dissolution of the Bank into two separate entities.

The swing from loss to profit in the last six months looks pretty impressive: extracting the one-offs, the Rock made a loss in the second half of last year of more than 100 million pounds.

But there is a paradox. Is Northern Rock Asset Management, the so-called bad Bank-the £ 50bn holds bits of mortgages and it is not going to be privatised--who has made a healthy profit of 350 million pounds.

Is the new Bank, Northern Rock plc, what must be privatised, which suffered losses of 143 million pounds--because it is not sufficient to cover the loan interest to pay out on deposits and other funds.

What these results tell us?

First, that the mortgage loans are worse at a slower pace, even if it is striking that there was still a drop in the number of mortgage borrowers, which are lagging behind: slightly increased the number of accounts of residential mortgages where the borrower is more than three months behind with payments, to 22,564 22,837, until by the end of 2009.

As regards the loss on so-called impaired loans, which was £ 278 million Asset Management and an insignificant £ 0. 4 m to Rock plc, compared with £ 1bn throughout 2009.

Secondly, there is an excellent chance that the taxpayer will make a profit when all those mortgages Rock finally reimbursed over the next decade or more.

And this process of liquidation will be quite something, after just under £ 50bn of buy-to-let and other loans from Bradford & Bingley-other nationalised Bank mortgage are crunched in Asset Management in the autumn.

In case you hadn't noticed, the Government has become a good player in distressed debt market, with a book lending in runoff of approximately £ 100bn, financed by loans from the taxpayer around £ 50bn (although, of course, most of the loans granted by B & B and the Rock would count as poor quality or anxious).

Finally, Rock plc is a bank very immature, with £ 6bn 17 stores only £ 11. funding 2bn mortgage.

As is, with limited and 76 branches, is more annoying than a flea in a fierce tiger in competitive struggle against elephantine Lloyds, Barclays, HSBC, RBS and Santander.

If the Government wants to promote competition in the market for retail banking, which is what it claims, is going to think creatively how to privatize the rock.

Certainly cannot be launched on the stock market in its current form underdeveloped. And it is evident that conventional auction over the next few months would maximize the return for taxpayers-since competition authorities would likely block bids from all the great players and offerings from the smaller players would be negligible.

That said, the twin goals of providing a fat profit for the State and by stimulating competition in the banking sector can be achieved if Rock plc can somehow be put into an arranged marriage with 600 branches--who have 4.6% market share in retail banking-that are sold (under duress) Lloyds.

If businesses and Clydesdale, owned by the National Bank of Australia may also be included in the rock, would be born a new Bank potentially significant.

To be clear, mergers of banks are ferociously complicated, because their computer systems and cultures are typically incompatible. But if George Osborne, Chancellor, wants to be faithful to his ambition to create true choice in banking for British consumers, it's going to have to be imaginative in how he sells the rock-and ignore the allure alluring fast buck.

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Fidelity in marriage

The prevalent hedonistic culture in the world today, convinces people that the pursuit of personal pleasure outstrips all other considerations. Fidelity in marriage has become a casualty. Marriage which was considered the building block of society and bound two people together in a physical, mental and emotional oneness, is now merely a minority concept.

A good marriage doesn't happen automatically. It involves commitment, acceptance, and mutual respect bonded together with love. Spouses set themselves apart from all others, and give themselves exclusively to each other. A good marriage is based on the "reciprocity principle." Partners, who have pledged to love each other 'till death do us part,' must work at it actively and continuously. There is no casual leave or vacation written into the contract.

What do we mean by Fidelity? It is the quality of reliability and trustworthiness to one's partner.
"To be faithful is not a favour you bestow on your spouse. It is a privilege to bless yourself with, says Michael Cohon.

The world is in the grip of a sexual revolution. Sex, sexual exploits, sexual prowess are recurring themes that bombard us through both the print and electronic media. Personal pleasure and self fulfillment are characteristics of the New Morality. Infidelity is glamorized.
"Do what you want to," is the slogan of Individualism.
A recent study done in the US, shows that 30% of women and 40% of men have been unfaithful to their spouses at some point in their marriage.

The weakening of religious and social restraints, the easy availability of sex, permissive legislation have all contributed to the rise in infidelity.

Temptation is a gradual process, which first begins in the mind. Suggestive articles, movies, books or magazines initiate lustful thoughts. Thoughts turn to desire and desire to action. Even a one-night stand doesn't happen suddenly. It is preceded by unworthy thoughts.
"An affair may be an indication of marriage malfunctioning," says Linda Wolfe.

There are three main reasons for malfunction. The first is Emotional Immaturity. In a stable marriage, spouses honour and validate who the other person is. When one partner is selfish and self centred, and unwilling to make a total commitment, the marriage becomes unstable. Someone who has lived a very pampered life, doted on by parents, and used to having his own way, never really grows up. He is incapable of giving or receiving love or trusting others. Such a person may flit from one affair to another. The "Paris Hiltons" of this world are examples of such emotional immaturity.

James Goldsmith (Jemima's father) was also one such, who had countless affairs. Even after marriage to Lady Annabel his third wife, he did indulge in an extramarital affair.
"When you marry your mistress you automatically create a job vacancy," he said.

Many young people enter marriage with all kinds of expectations. They believe that marriage will meet all their needs, and is one long state of love and romance. They anticipate no quarrels or disagreements; that sexual pleasure is an indication of the stability of marriage; or that children will create an inseparable bond between parents. But when they realise that the practical realities of every-day living are quite daunting, they look elsewhere for the fulfillment of their needs.

Unmet needs bring about frustration and disillusionment. When couples don't enjoy each other's company, don't like doing things together, or going out by themselves, boredom sets in and life gets stuck in a rut of ordinariness. Lack of communication or mental stimulation leads to emotional dissatisfaction. A woman feels let down when she receives no emotional support from her husband. He never compliments her on her looks or attire, and does not thank her for the food she has prepared. This may spill over into the bed room. Sex is not merely physical. There is psychological and emotional involvement too. When her needs are not met, sex becomes an unpleasant chore.
Husbands too can be put off by nagging wives, or 'clinging vine' types who lack initiative.

The basic needs of every human being are Affection and Appreciation. It can be conveyed through a glance, a word, a smile or a kiss
Acceptance of the spouse as a person is important. Many problems arise when one partner tries to change the other, and squeeze him /her into a mould of one's choice. Even in marriage it is important to maintain one's own identity and values.
"When a man and a woman are able to respect and accept their differences, then love has a chance to blossom," says John Gray.
Husbands and wives should also be each other's best critics. Tactful and loving criticisms done in a non-judgemental way are sure to strengthen relationships.
Admiration is a big ego booster. Appreciating the virtues, achievement and capabilities of the partner in his role as husband or father, his patience, his courage and dependability, makes a man want to do better.
"I can live for two months on a good compliment," said Mark Twain.
Similarly a woman's self confidence depends to a certain extent on her husband's estimate of her. She needs to be nourished and cherished with praise and appreciation.

Sexual appetite they say is second only to hunger. J. Robert Whitehurst wrote in the Journal of Sexual Behaviour that "All men from the first day of marriage think about the possibility (of extramarital encounters)...........Although these tendencies diminish in later middle life and beyond, they never entirely disappear or vanish in normal men."
Sexual dissatisfaction is a symptom of marital discord. One partner may be frigid, or the other may suffer from erectile dysfunction. Sex may become so routine when partners refuse to acknowledge each others needs. As Esther Pirot says, "Bedroom familiarity breeds contempt."

While a woman is stimulated in an emotional environment, a man's interest is more about sexual excitation. Romance just fades away, and the entire exercise becomes mechanical and devoid of feeling. Dr. Albert Ellis describes this as "Healthy Adultery."
A prominent Divorce lawyer says that in 90% of cases, divorce begins in the bedroom.
When one partner turns down a mate for sex, it is a painful experience. The partner feels rejected. Men especially begin to look elsewhere to satisfy their unfulfilled desires. Dissatisfaction is a preliminary to infidelity. The "trapped syndrome" makes them want to flee the boring marital bed.
Even the Bible counsels, "The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband; the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, except for prayer. Then come together again so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self control."(1Cor 7:4.5.)

Long distance marriages also lead to infidelity. Prolonged absence does not make the heart grow fonder. It may drive them apart.

The term "Managed Monogamy" is a new word added to the Manual of Infidelity.
Here spouses have extramarital affairs while being in a marriage, by mutual consent. There's nothing clandestine about it. They even discuss their affairs and have a laugh.
Unresolved Conflicts can also lead to infidelity.
Careers and jobs today are so demanding that couples don't find time to speak to each other. Instead they form relationships at work. A wife who is housebound feels neglected when her husband is preoccupied with his career. Her loneliness and frustration may goad her into an affair.

A husband unemployed for long period can be nagged at or belittled by his wife. This may drive him into the arms of another sympathetic woman.
Financial Problems either due too poor salaries or extravagant life styles, or large families lead to constant bickering and dissatisfaction in the home. It could trigger infidelity.

In-laws can sometimes drive a person to desperation especially when there is no support from the partner. The aggrieved spouse might look for support elsewhere.
Domestic Violence, repressive husbands, nagging wives or wives obsessed with order and cleanliness are also causes for infidelity.

Economic freedom of women has given them power and opportunities to have fun elsewhere.
A newspaper item said that women are more inclined to cheat in love than men. The ratio stands at 40% as against 34% males.
Unfulfilled goals in life often create frustration and irresponsibility, which can also lead to infidelity.

There are three types of infidelity.

- The one night stand or the one-time affair, like Boris Becker's quickie in the broom cupboard in a London restaurant. It cost him his marriage and a chunk of his fortune.

- It may be a short term relationship. But too many of these short affairs could destroy one's marriage and lead to depression, say psychologists.

- Others have parallel marriages with two wives and two families. Many of the Bollywood (Mumbai) actors are into such relationships.

The common reaction of aggrieved spouses when confronted by the infidelity of their partners is almost similar to what one experiences when a partner dies. Surprise, denial, anger, disappointment and eventually acceptance follow.
Denial is a defensive mechanism by the aggrieved spouse even when the signs are glaringly evident. Husbands sometimes purposely leave clues like hotel receipts or lipstick on the collar because it brings them relief from guilt. But many wives pretend that all is well and refuse to confront them. This "ostrich syndrome" is a way of coping. But it eventually leads to depression, insomnia and sometimes suicidal tendencies. A wife, who has no other economic means of support covers up a partner's guilt, thereby condoning his infidelity.

Anger is a common reaction. Angry words, refusal to do normal domestic chores, withdrawal of conjugal rights, or running off to Mother, are some of the ways women show their anger. Sometimes fights ensue. The husband is angry with his wife for driving him to infidelity. The wife who is betrayed is angry at being let down. There is a breach of trust which psychiatrists call 'psychic injury.'
At times a woman may retaliate by saying "If he can do it, I can do it too." Imitating the wrong doer is like being controlled by the errant spouse and is counter productive.
Anger can sometimes be directed at one's self for not being able to make a success of marriage, or at the spouse for not meeting her needs, or at God for allowing such a situation.
Revenge is a fatal reaction. Inflicting physical injury or throwing acid on a lover's face is becoming quite common these days.
When Peter the Great discovered the affair his wife was having with William Mons,
(Gentleman of the Bed Chamber) he had the man decapitated. The head was preserved in a bottle full of alcohol and kept in the Queen's bedroom.

Many women with poor self image blame themselves for their husbands' infidelity. They feel they have not lived up to their husbands' expectations and have driven them into the arms of other women.

Some like to force a solution immediately, without waiting for any explanation from the errant spouse. The decision to split is taken immediately, leaving no room for reconciliation.

Marriage is a relationship that has to be built over the years, with love and deep commitment to each other. Infidelity is a breach of trust that leaves the offended spouse deeply hurt and betrayed. An affair is a crisis that must be tackled calmly. Facts must be sorted out from rumours or suppositions. It is possible for wrong conclusions to be drawn from innocent gestures.

Partners who communicate well with each other and periodically conduct a marital audit will be able to sort out major or minor conflicts. No one is infallible. Mistakes are possible but confession must come quickly, and remorse should be rewarded with forgiveness. The incident thereafter should be laid to rest and not recycled with every argument. Spouses must love "in spite of" the other's faults.

"A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers," says Robert Quillan.

Ogden Nash sums up the secret of a happy marriage in verse.

"If you want your marriage to sizzle,

With love in the loving cup,

Whenever you're wrong admit it,

Whenever you're right shut up."

Spouses who love each other deeply and have pledged to be faithful till the end, will not compromise even on small temptations. They will be able to resist them. Mutual respect, concern for the other's needs, and the ability to continually fall in love with each other, will keep the marriage bed inviolate. Of course it goes without saying that Divine help is imperative.
"Couples who stay married develop the ability to not lose sight of the love in their relationship and to express it," says Robert Levenson.

Eva Bell is a doctor of Medicine and also a freelance writer of articles, short stories, children stories. Published in Indian magazines and newspapers, anthologies and also on the web. Author of two novels, one non-fiction, two children's books. Special interest- Travel and Women's Issues.

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New book behavior Dog! Dog behavior solutions Quirks and Lynn Hoover

To help families who want to better understand their dogs of emotional relationship needs, and families unable to find or afford a professional behavior consultant, Lynn Hoover, as it shares the advice and Wisdom in a new book, dog Quirks and behavior solutions.

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Cassie, a combination of three years and Spaniel chewing effort, destroying doors, walls, Carpeting and furniture in the home. Tucky, a Shih Tzu, peeing glass around the place and growling to visitors. Nothing seemed to work for their families. Waives the dog seemed to be the only option. This means that until the animal behavior consultant Lynn Hoover came to the rescue. These dogs and their families--and many others like them--alive today thanks to their work companionably with Hoover. As an increasing number of dog behavior consultants, Hoover's mission is to reduce the number of dogs that are inappropriately punished, discarded and euthanized for behavior problems are resolvable.

To help families who want to better understand their dogs of emotional relationship needs, and families unable to find or afford, someone like Hoover shares the advice and Wisdom in a new book, dog Quirks and behavior solutions.

The first thing that Hoover wants families with dogs understand that behavior has diverse causes and is in the position held by many reinforcers. Families must develop a coordinated plan to get problems from many sides. The biggest mistake families can do is to go one by one from the "try this!" list until you have exhausted all the possibilities that might have worked if they had been imported as part of a coordinated plan.

After explaining some basic theories, professional issues, relationship and Hoover offer practical solutions case with a fun, informative way. It also covers other issues, such as dominance, medicating behavior and stress. If dog owners take only one bit of advice, Hoover hoped, "dogs are not that complicated. These can be wooed, they can be won over ".

Lynn Hoover is an expert in dog behavior problems and family relationships, systems consultation interviews — and a leading authority on the profession of dog behavior consulting. Founded the International Association of animal behavior consultants (IAABC) and founded and served as Chairman of their dog Division Chair for four years. Is a long-time advocate for meaningful certification.

Removed a psychotherapist with long-term medical eligibility for clinical membership in the American Association for marriage and family therapy (AAMFT). Is a private behavior consulting practice in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

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"Lynn Hoover's ideas and recommendations for the management of canine behaviors clearly based in scientific research, observation and a joyful loving appreciation of our dogs and the bonds between two species. If you want to live happily ever after with your dog, see dog Quirks. "
~ Sheila Webster Boneham, Ph.d., author of rescuing matters! And Training your dog for life

"I really like the ideas of Lynn Hoover approach and common sense in this book, and the use of case studies to the points. I think readers will learn a lot by seeing examples of the points he makes about real life situations …Lynn gets really at the heart of recognizing behavior problems as miscommunication between species … "

~ John Ciribassi, D.V.M., Dipl. ACVB

President, American Veterinary Society of animal behavior in the past
Chicagoland veterinary behavior consultants
Chicago, IL

"Lots of practical advice and methods for solving dog behavior. This book is highly recommended for people who work with dog behavior problems caused by separation anxiety or fear. "

~ Temple Grandin, Ph.d., author of the translation, and our animals to humans. Time magazine listed in time magazine, "The 2010 time 100--the people who most affect our world"

"Dog Quirks and behavior solutions is a great book to own where you fall on the spectrum of dog lover. For professionals looking for new approaches for education and for lovers of dogs enjoy an interesting Read this book will deliver. The book many issues or quirks of dog behavior, approaches to dealing with these issues, and even a recipe at the end for "Super dictate faces". The book uses case studies to give real life examples. Case studies are extremely interesting to read and give the reader a sense of how the ideas of training and in real life. The author not only teaches us about dogs. It also discusses the greater picture of how dogs integration with their families. This is an item missing in many books today that give the solutions that may seem a good paper, but does not translate well for real people living real lives. This book is packed with good information from an overview of dog learning theory to family support for the interesting case studies.»

~ Tamara Rousso, Or

"I love this book. It has a prominent place on my bookshelf-to be used as a guide, inspiration, and to be lent to those whom I am sure I will return! Explanations of Lynn dog behavior solutions in the "History" is an education for anyone looking for a realistic and reliable solutions for ' dog ' quirks, such as categorize so attending dog problems. It's great to have someone with foresight of Lynn to guide us. "

~ Brenda Aloff, writer of aggression in dogs: practical management, prevention and behavior modification, and Canine body language

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Council obligatoire bride suggested as préalable divorce

HELENA-effects of a disaster divorce on children and families, Gallatin County, Montana, United States should not allow couple with the minor for divorce until they suffered at least 10 hours of marriage counselors, supporters of a law which ended the requirement that a Legislative Committee Monday.

'' I had a man 50 could tell me they are always the parents (divorced) it would be together again, '' Sharon Nason, a professional adviser asylum said. '' This Bill would slow down the court quickly husband, luttes married backfire. "

Nason and other supporters of HB438 said Judicial Advisory Committee this House can save a few mariages, and couples who was in trouble often do not stop to look at the nature of the problems, which could be solvable, you tell the effects a separation on children.

HB438, House majority leader Tom McGillvray, R-Billings, said a couple and children minor can't get a divorce unless they suffered at least 10 hours of marriage advisers Before 12 months.

The requirement does not apply if the party be a claim of physical abuse.

Opponents of HB438 said this is an unnecessary "government mandate '' with barrier to divorce, especially for the poor people who can't afford so that your Council who tried to make out an abusive marriage.

They said that while the law allows an exemption for people claiming to be "physical abuse, '' can être other drugs are trying to escape.

Legal aid service of Higgins, Montana, United States, which provides civil legal services for the poor, said many who had come to Legal services are simply '' seeking recognition of something that had already passed, and his wife. "

"Alive in you lower than the Museum simply cannot let Sin Adviser, '' he said. '' The man who is not a lawyer, but add more confusion to this legal procedure. "

Patricia Lawson, her voice breaking with emotion, said a woman trapped in an abusive marriage, often have problems came with the money for a divorce.

He said, '' if legislators want a term name, which will have to advise être tenu security and she took him to? ". '' If we have to insist on Adviser, Council of pre-marital would say: Before you married is when you should go to the Council. "

Human rights and women's groups also at odds over the measure.

A number of those in favor of church you have church groups, said lay advisers could help people with better kept than mariages ended.

U. s. Attorney Tatz of Helena, who opposed the law, said she was by her '' manifestement religious phone "program-HB438 testimony. While all the people will have the right to personal religious faiths, être intégré croyances that no law, '' he said.

McGillvray said let réglages the language to allow people to avoid abusive mariages exigence the advice, but has rejected discuss her Bill is a '' mandate '' from the Government, marriage counselors often could be obtained in the spring the price will make you non-coût.

'' It's an opportunity to save a marriage and to make the people, '' he said. '' This More mariages are not and do not have to abuse, they may this matter be God, in a little help with a tip. "

The Committee may not take any immediate action on the Bill.

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Princeton married gay fight deportation as the debate of the defense of Marriage Act continues

 Cie Stroud for The TimesVenezuelan Henry Velandia and his partner American Josh Vandiver, a grad student at Princeton University, at the Carl a. Fields Center on campus in Princeton, N.J. March 4, 2011. They are protesting the Defense of Marriage Act.

PRINCETON BOROUGH - Josh Vandiver never expected to become an activist. A sixth-year graduate student at Princeton University, he planned to spend this spring finishing his dissertation and enjoying his new life with his husband of a year and a half, Henry Velandia.

Instead, they're in the middle of a fight to keep their marriage together. Velandia, who first came to the U.S. from Venezuela in 2002 on a visitor visa, is facing deportation. Although they married legally in Connecticut and have been together since 2006 Velandia is unable to qualify for a spouse visa because the couple is in a same-sex marriage.

"I never imagined that, as an American citizen, I would be unable to sponsor the person I love to be with me in the U.S.," Vandiver said. " "I never thought I would be discriminated against that way."

The two are now among the most prominent voices calling for a moratorium on deportations of individuals in same-sex marriages while Congress and the federal courts determine the fate of the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).

DOMA prohibits the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages, which means these pairs do not receive typical benefits, including the ability to sponsor a spouse marriage for immigration.

"our fight is to stay together," Velandia said in an interview. "we hope that the government will realize the damage doma is causing to many couples in our position."

At first, Velandia and Vindiver Katherine can't optimistic. But after President Obama and Attorney General Eric Holder recently announced that the administration believes DOMA is unconstitutional, Vandiver and Velandia have new hope for success.

The president's statement doesn't change the law. Purpose, as their attorney Lavi Soloway explains, it does change how we understand the position they're in.

"Henry is now prohibited from getting a green card on the basis of a law that the president thinks is unconstitutional, that has been found unconstitutional by a federal district court judge, and that Congress is now working to repeal," Soloway said.

(A green card grants an alien permission to live in the U.S. and be employed here.)

It's unlikely that Congress will pass the proposed bills challenging DOMA before May 6, the date of Velandia's deportation hearing. Instead, they are calling on the Department of Homeland Security to give same-sex binational couples facing imminent deportation the right to remain in the U.S. until the debate on DOMA is resolved.

Vandiver and Velandia will likely be the first couple to take this appeal to the federal courts.

"It's a momentous historical moment, one that was not biosphere to anybody working in this area, in immigration law or LGBT (lesbian gay bisexual transgender) rights," Soloway said.

"It seemed like a long shot back in the fall, but it seems like a lot less of one now," he said.

Although it would be the first case of prosecutorial discretion in immigration law for same-sex couples, similar exceptions have been made in the past. Soloway described the Department of Homeland Security 2009's decision to put a moratorium on deportations of women whose U.S. citizen husbands were killed during the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq before they received their green cards. He said that decision to defer deportations on humanitarian grounds is very similar to what Velandia and Vandiver are asking for now.

"It's now perfectly reasonable for the secretary of the Department of Homeland Security to make a similar decision to prevent megacity couples apart in the context of a law that the executive branch and short think is unconstitutional," Soloway said.

Though the process of appealing the immigration decision could take several years, Vandiver and Velandia plan to keep fighting. They say leaving the U.S. rather than waiting in limbo is not an option.

"Back home, there is a culture of machismo that doesn't accept openly gay men," said Velandia. "america has been the place of becoming who I am."

Vandiver added that they have been planning a life together in the U.S.

"As an American citizen, I expect to be treated equally under the law, and this law is singling me out and avertis against me," Vandiver said. "The people who are in exile have lost their voice to be a cause for change here."

Though they may be the first to make the case before the courts, Vandiver and Velandia are not alone. Soloway estimates there are thousands of bi-national same-sex couples in the U.S., and more who live in "exile" abroad or thing not to marry because of the risks.

"Some of the people who have written to us have been young people who expressed despair that they don't foresee being able to get married and be together, even if the person they love is an American," Vandiver said. "To hear their sadness and despair drives us forward."

Last October, they launched a petition to Secretary of Homeland Security Janet Napolitano requesting that the deportation of the spouses of gay American citizens be stopped until the situation is resolved. They currently have more than 2,600 signatures, and their Facebook group, "Save Our Marriage: Stop the Deportation of Henry Velandia," has more than 10,000 supporters.

They are also partnering with a student organization at Princeton - Princeton Equality Project - to raise awareness among students and get more signatures on the petition.

"their story is a great example of how these laws affect people's lives," said Elektra Alivisatos, the organization's Marriage Equality Project director.

"Because Josh is part of the Princeton community, we thought it would hit really close to home."

"some said combining two hot-button issues is a bad thing, but with the outpouring of support we had, it seemed like we had both communities coming to our support and aid," Vandiver said.

Velandia, a professional salsa dancer who operates his own school, Princeton-based HotSalsaHot, was initially nervous about coming out to the Latin dancing community. But when people in the community saw him featured on Fox News, they were very supportive, as was the Princeton community.

"It's been a great place to develop ourselves as a couple," Velandia said.

As they've shared their story, they haven't encountered many people who opposed their views.

"We found love and got married and want to be together, and it's simple if it's just a narrative of our lives," Vandiver said. "Maybe that will get through in a way that arguing from principle wouldn't can't."

"We're standing up for what we believe-our love, our lives, and equality," said Velandia. "That's the principle we're working for."

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Make wedding advice really work?

Do marriage counseling work? I can't believe that I have not been on this topic. What is important is because I know that many people May if it is a time, money and effort to it.

Unfortunately, the answer to the question complexe and based on many different variables that really don't answer one.

If you ask some of your friends who have gone through the process and be aware that rescue the marriage. Other people do you know otherwise. I say to you, and, as I know terapis stronger, working certain long, but not always.

So is the problem here? You and your partner is there relationship difficulties, you find a qualified therapist and then have nothing semble to improve. You either stop (57 percent of the couple time to), find another therapist you just go home, continue and you dissolve être miserable marriage. You may think it is not safe for marriage therapy against it, but look at variables may tell you otherwise.

They know more about the couple presented the first indices. Who are they? How long were like? Is the first marriage, the third? How interesting are? Are one or both countries are unhappy and they are very committed in search help? Try out the question to me is, how long do they have these problems? Why did they stay so long, to seek help? All these issues can change efficacité of the process.

I saw couple where someone desperate to repair relations with the other just want to put them out. Some indiscretion, where a substance is something they are not able to work in and forgiveness is impossible. The most difficult to success is where one of these partners and they came they believed that the Council did not take work and sabotages all tentative in change. There are also they were the ones who only want the blame partner for everything and want you to fix. And, of course, there are people who should never have been married in the first place, with all the homework, Sur une you conduit will not be grouped together.

The other big variable is the therapist Therapy so you don't have to do the work for you read methods, personality, patience, experience, sex, age, you just do something that no special connection between the client and advise if one of the partners believe this therapist is take sidesIf you don't, he won't be successful. If a client comes for the wedding advice and believe that they may have charge of the process, they may be in for an ass éveil of a therapist who believe that this type of work requires a strong and skillful approche.

But in all pieges possible, thirsty and marriage counselor can and will help men maintain relations are going, whether that fixing the problem at least améliorer relations there.

If you decide to get help, here are some ideas to ponder.

Talk to your partners expectations and résultats.Choose a therapist, not that your insurance will cover it, but you feel will help you.Thickness: Changes not happen night.Pratique les compétences you learn at home and often.Have no fear to speak, let your therapist know if something doesn't work, you disagree with them.Have no fear to change terapis (but not often.)If you feel uncomfortable, be aware that the time you will, this is a good thing.Ask for a private session if you feel you need one.Être honnête totally and therapist, associated with the most of, yourself.

Get help early.  A small problem, like a small ember can develop in a great conflagration. So, went out before it gets that far.

Whatever you do, if you want to work, believe it will, but if can relations you can't save, way to know what you did all you could do, as a last resourcegood time, and the right, and full commitment.

JoAnna Wogulis is a marriage and family therapist asylum and training of life with a private practice in Solvang. You can find it in the 350-1653 or joanna@wogulis.com. Office to win 208, room 1607 mission Lecteur, Solvang.

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David Arquette: I want to register my marriage.

Courteney Cox and David ArquetteCharley Gallay/WireImageDavid Arquette wants to go back with wife Courteney Cox-, but for the moment, the decision belongs to him.

"I want him be happy", the actor said Thursday on The Oprah Winfrey Show. "If me being the best person I can be made him happy in a partner, to which she needs, what it seeks is always respond.".

Arquette adds that he does not know if his and the marriage of Cox can be repaired, but "I would love to work."

Only a few weeks of rehab, Arquette, 39, said Winfrey that he grew up in a chaotic environment and started to use drugs and alcohol before he was still a teenager. He had his first SIP of beer at the age of 4 years, stole the jar of his father at the age of 8 years and began to drink much at the age of 12, he said.

As a result, he said, he developed a person who wanted to please people and ended by not faithful to himself step. In trying to be "the perfect husband", was not happy, and that led to drink more, although he remains in denial about his substance abuse.

Cox responded by shouting behavior on top of her husband him saying, "I am not attracted to you now," according to Arquette.

The couple married in 1999 and had a daughter, Coco, now 6. They separated last fall. "She said,"I don't want be your mother anymore"," Arquette said, citing Cox. "I felt really sort of abandoned at this time."

He was also upset when tabloids claimed that Cox is having an affair. Although the stories were not true, "I was bitter about it," he said. "I was angry with the dynamics of our relationship." "I was angry with my wife".

The couple separated and live in different homes when Arquette met a waitress and admitted having an affair with her, although he said Winfrey that he, being labeled a cheater furious because he and Cox were not together at this time there. "I just boiled blood," said. "It is something that I am not".

Abuse of alcohol and drugs of the Arquette continued until his sister Patricia Arquette, Cox and others organized an intervention. "I need help in any way," he said and was ready to go through the program for 28 days.

Now sober since December 30, he said, Arquette lives alone in a house in Los Angeles, yoga and meditation, attends sessions of therapy, work on her clothing line and other business enterprises and sees coconut a few days a week. "I am responsible for," he said. "I am finally authentic."

As for his marriage strained, Arquette said that he would like to run.

"We truly love each other with all our hearts," he said. If it is as friends or as husband and wife, "I know that I will be with it all my life."

Arquette said that Cox "was incredibly favorable." She is my best friend, and I love him with all my heart.

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Media of Pakistan gripped by man married two times in a day

  Haidri (right) says it has found the perfect compromise solution to Pakistani man at age-old dilemma whether to embark on an organized or a marriage of love won the country's media.

Television channels gave live coverage of the decision of Azhar Haidri to marry both women for a period of 24 hours a day.

At first refused to marry the woman selected from his family since childhood, because he loved someone else.

Pakistani law allows polygamy because as Islam allows a man to have up to four wives.

Islam is the main religion of the country.

Men who take multiple wives usually do after a period of several years, and must obtain approval from their first wife before a second marriage.

Correspondents say that while it is not unusual for men in Pakistan have multiple wives, it is rare for two weddings almost simultaneously to take place under the full glare of the media.

"Lucky"

Several Pakistani television brought the wedding live-Sunday and Monday because of exceptional circumstances.

Celebrations ran late into the night during the marriage before Mr Haidri to Humaira Qasim

Love of Mr. Haidri for 21-year-old Rumana Aslam-before 28-year-old Humaira Qasim — at one point threatened to split his family apart.

"I gave this offer I will marry both," Mr Haidri, 23, told the Associated Press before his first marriage to Ms Qasim Sunday in Central Pakistani city of Multan. "Both girls accepted."

He is scheduled to marry Ms Aslam on Monday.

Both women seem to have given their consent to compromise and say that they plan to live as brothers and friends.

"I'm glad they both love the same man," Ms. Aslam told AP.

Mr Haidri, a practitioner of herbal medicine, counts himself lucky.

"It is also very rare that two women happily agrees to marry a man," he said.

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Val Farmer, Modeles show when Council working

This indicates if matrimonial Council will be successful? Here are some with words I made a year.

When a spouse is alone. Some couple pleasure individuellement Council before the wedding began. After a preliminary hearing and the advice to do together. Adviser couple separately on matrimonial issues don't help the couple learn your communication resolve compétences.

If the process mean a partner, just for a time and in the only extended on marriage safely then thoughts and Adviser will be one effect has been made on the wedding. What makes me frustrated is when I heard later spouse one that left you are invited to participate in the Council and who has advised against the first a divorce.

When a spouse refused to come. Here is a good idea to see a partner only if their counterparts would not come. Those who would want the Council to a third party liability lives and marriage may not take place. There are cases of refuser partners better explain and work on the marriage know that their marriage was talked about in the Council.

Everything, including comportements can one do to change the dynamics of a relationship on their own-if they associate the session that you're not. Another major idea advise someone alone to strengthen resolve to confront their counterparts efficacement. This is an preliminary payment agreements with applied pressure enough to your partner reluctant decided to come for advice.

Factor. No matter how big the problem have is when I saw a couple who are willing to work in marriage I have a good idea you allude to. Good will only be still exist between them and both are willing to learn and change. The key to success is they own motivation and commitment to make it work.

When they do Sometimes problems are réalisables, but a lack of commitment by one partner dooms efforts from the start. The decision to leave this to do with compliance and advice seen as a unnecessary for a divorce. He was way after just a few sessions they believe their counterparts of negative character or ability to change put the stones.

That they may have good reasons to leave. More arrived. There may have been too much I hurt you break promises for travel partners to make more emotional energy in marriage. They feel dejected that the same adviser can help. They may have gone too far in life considered outside the marriage when you maybe a third party involved.

When one party were openly skeptical. Butare always easy. There are people who are skeptical. to advise to learn about and to see if anything can do it. Are easy and patient enough to give their counterparts of the doubt if benefit changes possible. Despite being held back until they see evidence for hope, participation is preuve de commitment to advise a chance. It is situations like what test talent Adviser.

Error in courtship. In a large number of cases, I see the divorce was caused by a mistake in judgment during courtship. Couples who are mismatched from the first and have a large base of mutual Love, objective and croyances have a time more advisers. Stimulus they are not able to overcome basic differences you défauts character, or partner.

Often this error involved is a seriously damaged in some way that makes them a poor matrimonial partner. This matter and colere, physical and verbal abuse, dépendances, think sense than égoïsme, malhonnêteté, éviter de responsibilities and no hearing, pity you take views all interfere with the ability to make a partner and the other needs before his.

Characteristics made waste préjudice marriage. If they do not treat enroll separately and professionnelle, changes little.

Family of origin Questions. One or the partner to become dysfunctional family where belief about basic have been met. As a result, there will be too needy, demanding, insecure, Possessive or contrôle. Should poor notions of limit in relations.

Mariages it mine who may resolve until they presented an individual Council you be matrimonial. Generation and work on these questions to help people become more prepared to have a relationship, telemedcin respectueux, give-and-latch without need, emotional insecurities interférer.

Some of these very commis and motivés. They need an adviser to help them make sense. Sometimes problems resist change and a partner will not be able to accept a relationship that is destructive. On the other side, when two people are trying at the same time, the arrival. They really do.

Val Farmer is a money clinic specializing in family business consultation and médiation and families. He lives in Wildwood,., and can be contacted through his website, www.valfarmer.com.

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Scott Bundgaard marriage quickly failed in 2006

Embattled Senate Majority Leader Scott Bundgaard, who faces calls to resign because of an altercation with his ex girlfriend, had a brief marriage and tumultuous five years there is a woman who left him on their honeymoon trip after his request for police assistance.

Bundgaard and Anne Harwell, an artist and the granddaughter of the late broadcaster of the Tigers of Detroit Hall of Fame Ernie Harwell, were weddings in Kona, Hawaii, when she called the police on April 8, 2006, saying that she needed help.

Harwell, in a police report, told a Dispatcher that she was afraid of his friend and that she wanted that his police escort couple holiday rental so that she could find his personal objects, Hawaii police lieutenant Randy Ishii told the Arizona Republic.

After having recovered his property, Harwell Bundgaard left and returned to Georgia, where she lived at the time. Five days later, she filed the marriage annulled in Maricopa County Superior Court, records show.

Harwell said police little more than that she was afraid of her partner, according to a report recently read by the police of the Republic.

Harwell, who now lives in Florida, refused interview requests.

Bundgaard, 43, said Monday that he was step aware Harwell had filed a police report. He said that she unexpectedly left him one afternoon while he was getting points for a picnic. He said that he called the police to check its security after that she left him a note.

Bundgaard February 25 was involved in an altercation with friend then Aubry Ballard along a highway in the Valley. She alleged that Bundgaard, R-Peoria, hit his first. She was arrested and spent the night in jail. The Senator claims that she struck him.

Bundgaard invoked immunity legislation to prevent the detainee, according to Phoenix police.

Bundgaard, new said Monday that he was not involved in violence with Ballard or his ex-wife.

"I don't want anyone to get this false perception that I am any type of a reasonable person." "Bundgaard, is not true", said in an interview.

The Senator said he tried to save his marriage and was shocked when Harwell left him.

"If I had a helping hand on it, I would understand why it would leave and had wanted marriage." But I did not, and I never with women, "Bundgaard said."

Bundgaard and Harwell had a romance whirlwind, meeting on the Internet at the end of October 2005, according to court records of. Five months later, they were married to the estate of Valley Paradise of Pierre Falcone, a friend of the Bundgaard.

Falcone was a weapons dealer who, in 2009, has been sentenced to six years in a French prison to lead the Soviet-made arms trafficking to Angola in a civil war in the 1990s. Bundgaard, said Monday that he knew only Falcone was an oil and gas and Falcone trader previously denied to him that he was involved in the arms deal.

Bundgaard and Harwell enter what is called a marriage of the Covenant, a Trade Union, which, in law of Arizona, requires a threshold more high dissolve.

Court records show that Bundgaard vigorously fought to save his marriage and that he offered to pay for counselling services.

Harwell dropped the initial cancellation of deposit in June 2006, but she filed again at the end of the marriage later this month.

Four days before Christmas 2006, Harwell Bundgaard sent an e-mail saying, that she wanted out. The marriage was cancelled in June 2008.

"I have come to the final realization that this marriage is never going to work," Harwell wrote in a letter that appears in the records of the Court. "I am account I can't meet your needs or expectations, only God can do." I do not think that I will be ever able to satisfy you. I think it is better if we agree to this end amicably and stop this unnecessary prosecution of trying to make this something marriage, that he will never be. If you agree to let me go now, you can keep all our wedding gifts and I will seek not all attorney fees. »

Bundgaard said that Harwell did not want to be away from his family, who lives in the South.

"I really worked hard to cause a reconciliation, and sometimes it worked well," Bundgaard said.Ultimately, we had irreconcilable differences, and it was better to dissolve.

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David Arquette wants to save marriage

David Arquette wants to save his marriage to wife Courteney Cox. Actor "Scream 4" - whose separation from the former star of "Friends" was announced last October - said that it is still in love with Courteney and excited for them to solve their problems and move forward with their relationship, but only if she wants.David - who has a six-year-old daughter, Coco, with the 46-year old actress - said: "I would love to work." We love really each other with all our hearts. Whether as friends or as husband and wife, I know that I will be with it all my life. "I want him to be happy. If me being the best person I can be is not its happy in a partner, to which she needs, what it seeks is always respond. "She is my best friend, and I love him with all my heart.David - who has verified the Betty Ford Clinic, where he underwent treatment for the rehabilitation of alcoholism, late January - also admitted that he was "furious" with Courteney when she told him she wanted to end their 11-year marriage.Speaking on "The Oprah winfrey Show", David said: "she got really depressed one day and was like"I am really not happy."" "At this time, I felt really sort of abandoned. An agreement is an agreement. I was angry with the dynamics of our relationship. "I was angry with my wife".

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David Arquette wants to save his marriage Courteney Cox

David Arquette wants to save his marriage to wife Courteney Cox.

"scream 4" actor, including separation from the former star of "Friends" was announced in October last, said that it is still in love with Courteney and enthusiastic for them to solve their problems and move forward with their relationship, but only if she wants.

David, who was a girl of six years, Coco with actress age 46, has said, "I would love to work." We love really each other with all our hearts. Whether as friends or as husband and wife, I know that I will be with it all my life.

"I want him to be happy." If me being the best person I can be is not its happy in a partner, to which she needs, what it seeks is always respond.

"She is my best friend, and I love him with all my heart."

David, extracted from the Betty Ford Clinic, where he underwent treatment for the rehabilitation of alcohol abuse, at the end of January, also admitted that he was "furious" with Courteney when she told him she wanted to end their 11-year marriage.

Speaking on "The Oprah winfrey Show", David said, "it got really depressed one day and was like"I am really not happy.""

"I felt really sort of abandoned at this time there." An agreement is an agreement. I was angry with the dynamics of our relationship. "I was angry with my wife".

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Hermon rescue squad responds after the decision of the city

after 42 years of service, rescue and Hermon volunteer ambulance squad is not the first EMS crew scene.

On Thursday, city councilors voted to Hermon developed an EMS based out of the fire service. Head of the rescue squad, said Sherman Mason of the crew are magic and hurt by the decision. Says that the loss of calls also could hurt the clip, making tight budget.

lthough the clip will not be the first to be called the scene, said City Manager Clint Deschene and hopes to pursue a relationship with them.

"I don't know where you are," he said. "May no longer want to work with the city. May have a different direction and plan, but I have every intention to contact the Board of Directors as a group and that, if you're interested, we would like to sit and chat with you. "

"I am not going anywhere," said Mason. "The city is part of our family. We've been here a long time and we greatly appreciate the support we have gotten city. "

An ambulance service said Deschene City Fire Department-based will cost the city $ 65,000 per year to run.

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New Director to lead rescue mission

Given the nature of addiction, it is important to create an intensive program to help people who lost their drug and alcohol, in accordance with the new Director of the Mission in Oxnard Ventura County rescue.

"Fundamentally we treat their problem gambling with a nine-month programme of the workshop. But we have not only the addict, the whole person, we have "Director John Saltee said" we have the study. Dealing with finances. We will consider the wisdom of the Bible, bibliography of literature that focuses on the correct choice. And we are a Christian organization in the Centre of the programme. "

Saltee rejoins rescue mission Tuesday after serving there as a vicar in the early 2000s.

"The reason I left the rescue mission in 2003 is I felt I needed more training to help these men," he said. "So I went to Westminster Seminary in Escondido."

He said Saltee is designed to help people with addictive disorders since they live in Canada was great.

"Always had a heart for the homeless and the addict. Orphaned, and I have also never heard my parents, "he said. "Love Somebody stopped sometime in their lives, when he was young."

Gary Gray, CEO and Chairman of the Alliance, said the rescue mission was chosen after a Saltee extended search.

"Did we take recruiting firm to do some legwork to identify a candidate," he said. "We were looking for a proven leader in the area of drug addiction and homeless services. John has chemistry is part of the group. Will lead to consensus and fit to the company. "

Gray said that as a faith-based organization, the Governing Council also examined the rescue Alliance "in the call of God in his life. John stood as an excellent

candidate. "

Saltee served 17 years in the Los Angeles City Fire Department, rising to the rank of Captain, before an accident ended his career working fire. Is a graduate of Prairie Bible College and received his master's degree from Westminster Seminary.

As a Minister, Saltee liable will oversee Ministry rescue mission, which includes the lighthouse for women and children.

He said that it is not necessary to be Christian to use the rescue mission.

"We never force (religion). Their relationship with God is personal, "he said. "We will try to give them greater assistance to the who. But never has forced or become part of a treaty to stay. We understand that we are not going to become a Christian through this. But we hope that you will find in their right mind, and get to be productive members of society. "

He said that he hopes to push the rescue mission to confirm more assertive.

"We want to go to a rescue operation is aggressive, bringing hot meals and handheld showers for men and people who live off the bottom of the river and other places where the homeless congregate," he said.

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